11.11.2010

RFF: Vintage Boots & Printed Tights (Modesty visited)

When I posted this RFF I received a few anonymous comments in regards to my LDS modesty standards. I pulled the post not because I was ashamed, but because I wasn't ready for that kind of judgment. I know that by posting details about my life, my family, and my clothing, I am subject to judgments. However, I was not prepared to have my LDS values "anonymously" questioned. Modesty is hugely important to me. Growing up, I never wore 2 piece swimsuits, I always wore sleeves to prom, and really never even wore tank tops. Do I think a lot of ladies look darn cute in the clothing types I've listed? Definitely. I just felt more comfortable that way. The LDS doctrine for modesty is not specific. However, many church members wear special under garments that are considered to be sacred and covered by street clothing. Now is the time for me to be honest with you. I am so proud to be a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, but I gotta tell ya, it doesn't mean I'm perfect. I often pick out my outfits the night before a day that I will be working. I often get dressed in the dark as to not wake my husband. (I need much more time to get ready than he does.) When I left the house on this particular day, I knew everything that needed to be covered was covered. I went on to my photo shoot as normal and didn't realize until I posted the pictures that this dress does in fact look shorter than I feel comfortable with. As I said, I pulled the post not because of shame, but because I want to make sure I represent my personal values at all times. Let me be honest again. It's not easy to find modest clothing that suites style. I was able to come up with a reasonable solution for this particular dress, so I thought I would share for those of you that run into the exact same problem.


Original Post:

 
Dress: HMD from my sister
Tights: HUE, $8, auction retailer
Cardigan: Ann Taylor, thrifted, $6
Necklace: Charlotte Russe, $3

I've been loving the vintage/rugged boot look. Especially with feminine tights. I found these in my parent's basement when I was looking for a Halloween costume. Thought I'd try em out. 


Solution:


I layered a light weight grey slip underneath. 

I'm glad this came up, because it gave me a chance to think about how certain situations are handled in the blogging world, and how much influence posts, pictures, and simple words can have on the readers as well as the writers. I am vowing right now to never leave a comment on any blog (whether I appreciate the material or not) unless I can attach my name to it. I just feel like that's the right thing to do.

If anyone has questions about the LDS faith or the doctrine of the church.  Please feel free to email me. I don't know all the answers, but I know where to find them!

Okay, that is all.

29 comments:

Lindsay said...

This look is absolutely great! Very cute.

Katie said...

Love this mix! Those tights look perfect with that dress! I just found an old pair of boots like this at my mom's house - They were mine back in the eighth grade! Love when things come back in style... And love that my mom is a pack rack! :)

Jenglamgirl said...

You are just a doll, would you quit already! K- love the outfit and tights, but I think those cute boots you had on yesterday would look cuter! That is just me. Love LOVE your hair... who does it? and where? I want my blonde hair back! and your color is dead on!

Meredith said...

I'm pretty much the queen of serious posing ... not! love your hair still. so much! cut and color are fab:)

Collette Osuna said...

LOVE the tights:)

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Anonymous said...

I came across your blog a while ago and I absolutely LOVE your fashion!
I have gathered that you are a mormon and I am wondering if they changed some of your clothing rules. I was told you couldn't wear anything shorter than knee length. . . is that not true?

Justine said...

I love your outfit mixes!

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Anonymous said...

To the other anonymous poster... no, LDS standards have not changed. We are supposed to wear clothes that come to right above the knees. This is a bit shorter than I think most LDS ppl are comfortable with.

sisters4saymoreismore said...

boo on all HATERS! there is nothing immodest about that look...

love U & your blog and you outfits and your re-style

nothing but LOVE!

~selina

Marissa said...

I agree with you, Sarah. If you can't attach your name to it than don't say it (or post it). And if you have a true concern email is always better than comments. I give you props for how you handled the situation and I love your solution. Cute and functional! :)

iamwoman said...

I wouldn't have thought one thing about it! I love the way you handled it though...

Rhonda said...

Just shows how different everyone is.... that's almost too long for my taste! ha!

but anyway, i came to comment to once AGAIN tell you how much I love your hair short.

Tessa said...

I absolutely love you. You rock everything you wear. Keep it up and I feel as long as you feel comfortable in it and you feel right about it then it's golden! I love how you "modestified" your outfit.

Jen Herem said...

ha ha ha.. i have to laugh because a: i would have NEVER thought that dress was too short. i must be a bad mormon..
b: i love that the person that noticed isn't even lds. ha ha. we do have an influence.

Amanda Smith-Hill said...

You're lovely and I want to thank you for your blog. I am a Mommy with style and appreciate finding a blog i can relate to. I also think its sweet that you felt you needed to address anonymous comments. As far as your style and your faith are concerned i would encourage you to let the comments of nay sayers roll off your back. You know yourself better than they do.

Nicole Lawrence said...

Sarah, both outfits look great. As always.

I think it's funny that the 2nd Anonymous commenter felt the need to speak for "most" mormons and what they feel comfortable wearing. Most mormons that I know, love and respect would never judge another individual for wearing a dress an inch too short.

That being said, I actually like the second look better, not because of length but because I think the contrast between the two dresses works great together. Keep on keeping on, little lady. You rock my world. xoxo

jessica.adams said...

Sar,
You know me. I'd much rather spend time with an immodest, drinking, smoking, swearing person who is REAL about their identity... than one who passes ridiculous judgements on others when they themselves are not perfect.
I love you, I think you are gorgeous, and I envy your flare for fashion and ability to make anything super fierce.
Can't wait to see you tomorrow.

--Jess

Maggy said...

We are supposed to wear clothes that come to right above the knees. This is a bit shorter than I think most LDS ppl are comfortable with.

========> too anonymous number 2.... I am not LDS and of course dont have the same ideas in that matters ( showing too much skin), but has I am christian I am not going to say that most christian wear shorter skirts like I do because I am one of them...
msot LDS confortable with?????? I know very little 20 smth girls wearing longer skirts or dress as it is the fashion nowdays...maybe in 2 years we will wear long dresses but its not in style now. and that's what this is about....


in 1900's women had to wear skirt all the way down,they couldnt vote or hundreds other things, time as change, and even though modesty is important doesnt mean that , with elegance, fashion cant change a little!!!
I have lots of LDS friends, I am not talking out of ignorance and for the love... isnt about LDS but about hundreds other things...
coming to a blog, that u probably dont follow to make that type of comment anonymously is not very LDS-ly....

I love your blog Sarah and I am sure you didnt change your post because of shame , I admire your faith and how you strongly believe and make the change because of that!!! :)

keeep the great work

Samantha said...

I think your dress was adorable originally, and for someone to comment about it was unfair. You handled it so well, with such grace, and I think your second version is just as, if not more, adorable. I love layering skirts - but it's usually too hot out!

Anna Liesemeyer said...

Sarah,
I LOVE that you strongly stand up for the virtue of modesty....a LOST virtue in today's society.
I think Modest is Hottest:) And so does my hubby:)
So happy to have found some bloggers with the same views and who aren't afraid to stand up for true femininity:)

Keepit up my friend!
Anna

Rimby said...

As a taller girl I find it so hard to find "regular store" skirts and dresses that reach my knees, so thank you so much for posting about this same problem, I'm always buying things because they look fine in the store and then only realise when I wear them out that they are shorter that I thought! Thank you so much for letting me know I'm not the only one =0) and such a great solution too, I really like your outfits!

Griff-Fam said...

Great job...sometimes it's hard to realize exactly what something looks like until you put it on... I haven't had a full length mirror in like 5 years, so to test out if something is too short, I have to ask my husband, or stand on my bed to look in the mirror over the dresser- doesn't always work out so well.

I love the slip fix- my friend taught me that, and also layering a little bit longer skirt under shorter dresses or skirts, and it looks super cute using complimentary colors, or totally different colors to get an extra zing.

I can't stand negative anonymous comments! If I really felt strongly about saying something to someone, I would tell who I was!

Meredith said...

i like this answer but have to say, there are kinda specific guidelines for modesty: http://bit.ly/9u2il3
i don't' judge when i see a knee, i just wonder what "kind" the person buys ... you know? I'm a carinessa girl and even those (in petites) run loong on me. love the tights!

Heidi Jo said...

thanks for showing beauty is not just about the clothing we wear. it's about who we are under the stuff. and you, my beautiful lady, are truly that. deep down beauty.

Melissa said...

I would just LOVE to see one of those modest clothing companies start making slips for skirts/dresses that are just a tad too short! Great dress. Great solution! Your outfits are so inspiring!

P.S. Where did you find your slip?

LuckyStarHeather said...

Catching up on blogs and I just want to say you're lovely. You are sweet and wonderful and I think it's super nice of you to be so thoughtful. I love that you offer another option, in case others also aren't comfortable with shorter skirts/dresses. xoxo

Candace said...

This is my first visit to your blog and the first thing I thought of was emailing it to my teenage sister so she can pick up some modest style tips. I love you and your blog and your hair! Thanks for your posts.

Aubree said...

This is so perfect. Sometimes when I see Mormon fashion blogs I get worried when skirts are inches above the knee. What kind of message does that send about the church? Where are that persons garments anyhow? This was a perfect way to show how to make clothes modest and still look just as hip. Thanks for having the courage to post this!

Kels said...

loved this post! i was recently married and am having the hardest time with all my dresses that seem to be just an inch to short! this is a great solution and keeps me from having to buy all new clothes!