I believe Isaac and I literally had to cling to each other during that time of grief and I think we felt as long as we had each other, we were gonna be ok. We developed a strong bond that I'm not sure anyone could really ever understand. I won't pretend we didn't beat each other up along the way. I remember using that "whip trick" with the towel and nearly disabling his vision for life. I bawled at the thought of being responsible for my brother's life long blindness in one eye. Lucky for both of us we grew out of our childhood without any life altering injuries. Growing up, our bedrooms were always right next to each other. We even shared a room at one point. A lot of events transpired in those rooms. At a young age Isaac learned how to play Barbies and House, and how to wear make-up and skirts. Whether this activity was consented or forced is up for debate. He consoled me Christmas Eve when I was terrified for Santa to come. (Yes, I was deathly afraid of him.) I prepped him for his first Jr. High dance, and we listened to each other's guitar performances. He and I used to talk for hours and hours at night. I'm not sure why it was so much easier to talk during the wee hours of the night; it just always ended up that way. I don't know what he would say, but I came out of my childhood with one of the best friends anyone could ask for. Isaac used to tell me I was pretty and that he liked my hair best in a ponytail. He probably didn't realize this was during a time I needed confidence the most. He listened to me cry for hours after our dear grandpa passed away. When I moved away to go to beauty school, he bought me a massaging pedicure bowl for my birthday. (You wouldn't think that would be within a 16 year old's budget.) When he left for his mission I cried for weeks knowing that I wouldn't be able to talk to him on a regular basis. Even while on his mission he taught me to be grateful for the life that I have.
As mentioned here, my brother found a great girl and fell in love. On January 15th they were married, and I'm so happy for the both of them. Marriage is a journey filled with unexpected events that transform into unconditional love and eternal companionship.
All 3 sisters with our red faces and puffy eyes. It's a bad idea to have everyone make a speech!
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